Step One of getting your finances in order is a simple verb: CANCEL.
In this step, you, your S.O., and anyone else who consumes (and therefore potentially saves by CANCELING) on your dime must take a hard look at consumption.
The first thing here is to CANCEL (or reduce) every subscription-based product that you consume (that you can bring yourself to cancel).
There is a reason why almost every service or product these days tries to get you on a subscription-based payment scheme: because eventually they will bill you without having to provide the product. (Failing that, at least they have a guaranteed MINIMUM level of consumption, which they can plan for. And those are only the biggest, most surface-level, reasons.)
Will you eventually pay for more than you get? Yes. Let’s take a popular example: Netflix.
They charge you $20/month (or whatever their special is) for unlimited movie rentals (3 at a time) per month. There are many people who take advantage of this service. BUT. They only people who should are those that already have a movie budget of OVER $240/year.
Personal Note: I don’t come close to this required minimum spending amount to engage in Netflix. I probably spend $5-10/year on movies, seriously.
And even for the people that $240/year represents a reduction in amount spent, if you fail to operate at minimum capacity of the service in any particular month, then you just spent money on nothing.
Reduce your consumption to your normal rate of spending, what you budgeted or what you should budget. Trade a product with an enforced minimum, like Netflix, for a quid-pro-quo product, like SwapaDVD.
Removing a service with an enforced minimum allows you to lower your total output for that budget item. The key to spending less money is, of course, consuming less. But you’d be surprised to know what you can get for even a much lower dollar amount when you stop paying for subscription services. Suddenly you discover what the provider has known all along: they charge you for services that they don’t provide, and that you don’t use.